Thursday, 22 September 2011

Childhood Stresses

I thought I'd have a chat to my 10+ year old and gain some insight from him to help with a new Blog topic.  What's bothering him, what's important to him, what's not?  What is he stressing about?  What is he thinking about?  Admittedly, I had to give him a little prod, and remove my husband's iPhone from his grasp first, but eventually he looked at me and really gave it some thought.

Finally out is came.  "You know what mum.  Probably the biggest thing I'm stressed about at the moment, like what I really worry about......what if I don't make it into the Australian cricket team?  Or what if I don't make it into the AFL?

Hmmm, OK so it's not quite the answer I was expecting, but then again, it really got me thinking.  As a mum I find myself so wrapped up in the woes of the world and what it will mean for my children, that before I know it, they are another year older and I'm left wondering where the time went.

There is so much doom and gloom out there.  Between the economic catastrophe (as Channel 10 so kindly upgraded the GEC to the other week), terrorism, job losses, cyber bullying and all the other evils of the world, I wonder how my kids will ever survive high school, how will they ever get a decent job and afford their own home, how will they ever be able to stop worrying about all these things?

And then I realised, they're not.  As adults we are worrying about these things, but our kids are still just being kids.  With a son who loves his cricket and AFL I suppose it makes sense that as far as he's concerned, that's what is most important.  Making it into the Australian cricket team or playing in the AFL.  Although I must admit he seems to think it's quite possible to do both, and who am I to point out that he'll probably have to make a choice.

It's made me more resolved now to look at things through my kids eyes.  I'm not saying I'm going to stick my head in the sand and ignore all the bad things, but I don't need to focus on them so much either.  I don't need to spend hours worrying about everything around me. My kids will grow up and learn things along the way.  They will experience joy and they will experience sadness.  They will experience laughter and they will experience heartbreak, and all these things are okay.  It's all part of growing up.  There really is no point in worrying about things I can't control.  If my 10 year old isn't worried about how on earth he is ever going to afford his own home, then why am I?  Maybe instead I should take him down to the cricket nets and let him swing a bat.  After all, he plans to make it into the Australian cricket team remember.

Would love you to share your thoughts?  Do you know what is important to your kids, what they are worrying about and thinking about?  It may be very different to what you thought.

pictures courtesy of including the serious cute pic of the cat stress balls.

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